Court

Well he had to admit what he did in detail in open court today.  Due to that they have dropped the theft and assault charges.  However due to the smoking where he's living and the stealing of 2 knives, he can not have visits off the grounds anymore.  We don't know when or if he will ever return home before the age of 18.  That's in his court, if he is successful in treatment he can.  They may still adjudicate him if he continues to err.  They will allow his brothers to visit now with us there. Lil Dan says who cares nothing has changed for him.  Upon his return to where he was staying I asked him if he was scared,"No Mom, I was just really bored.  That took way to long."  Once again all I can say is my son is who he is I love him.  Anyone who would like to write him, you can send it to us and we will forward. Like I said I see him quite a bit. He needs love and support now more than ever.  I know it's not safe for him to return for the victim & his 2 brothers.  It is definitely not safe for him, if someone could do $1400.00 damage to my grand am after he was in the paper imagine what they might do to him.  I fear it is someone who doesn't know us and lil Dan could be endanger since he too looks 15.  So I guess all I can say is life has been crazy.  And we feel very alone at this point.  It breaks my heart to see how this has affected everyone.

4th Street Cruise 5-29-2010 (Sorry Pics Not individually Labeled, too lazy)

Show and Shine 5-28-2010

Show and Shine 2010

Wow thought I had died and gone to Heaven!  So many new cars this year and they rocked!!

K to lazy to load each one~just gonna do a slide show

What's one more charge?

Caught smoking now their contemplating a 4th charge for under age smoking on school property.  As my son put it.  No big deal, it'll be $50.00.  According to the place he is at it is closer to between $200 ~$300.  They let me in on some stuff he's been pulling.  All I could say is welcome to my world.  And I'm going to quit feeling bad about not being able to get things under control.  Yep he's taxing the 20 people looking after him, and they are having a hard time keeping up.  He is who he is and til he decides to make a change, life will continue to be interesting for those in his life.  Thanks to those who joined us in prayer and fast yesterday.  I can feel it helping me and lil Dan was surprised by the amount of people who stood behind us.  It was awesome.

Family Fast

We are asking  for family and friends to join us on Monday for a Fast and Prayer to help our family through these trying times.  We as a  family need help to know the right decisions to make.  All involved in and out of our family need the comfort to begin healing.  They need to know they are precious in the eyes of the lord, that the road ahead maybe hard but with the love and help of our heavenly father we will all make it.  You need not be Mormon to participate.  Our Heavenly Father hears everyones prayers and knows what is in our hearts.  Even those who have made mistakes need to feel the love and support of our Father in heaven, family and friends.  So with this in mind we humbly ask for your support.  I have seen the power of prayer and fast in my life many times and miracles do happen.  Thanks.

Times are tough.

All the children are having a hard time dealing with all the changes in life.  My son Rick no longer lives with us, due to his own poor choices.  We are currently awaitng to be served for the times he is to appear in court.  He is facing 3 very serious charges.  We have visits with him 3 times a week.  We could visit more but with 2 other boys at home, they need us now more than ever.  And I believe he needs time to think.  The judge has ordered no contact between my younger boys and him.  It is a safety issue for all involved.  Rick's having a hard time adjusting and wants to come back home.  And other times he just complains he is bored.  Mind you he is still finding time to do stuff that is not right.  I'm not sure how to get through to him, this is serious stuff. His Juvenile Officer has already told him any more charges before now and court will change any help to automatic jail time.  No one can see him then than Dan & I.  If you'd like to contact him write him here and we will forward.


Lil Dan is set with his own issues.  He feels everyone is so worried about Rick, no one even notices the good stuff he is doing.  He has had an awesome track season.  Doing good things with his grades.  Is a very thoughtful young man who goes out of his way to help others.  He has a good heart.  But is extremely angry right now with his brother.  Is not sure he ever wants to see him again.  Is clinging to his faith and friends.


Eddie Ray is confused.  He is happy his brother is gone one second.  He's glad he can no longer hurt him or his friends.  Sad his brother is missing.  Feels bad for his brother that he can't come home at this time.  Trying to sort out all the things his brother chose to share with him about what he has done.  Not really understanding what has happened.  He is now in therapy for the first time in his life.  


We as parents are feeling a variety of emotions.  Trying to be everything all of our children need us to be.  Trying to understand how one could intervene to get a child help.  So he could see and understand the damage he was doing to others.  And yet he keeps right on doing what it is he knows is wrong. Trying to understand how my oldest seems okay with everything going on right now.  We keep trying to deal with the losses of friends and family this year.  We have relied heavily on the lord this year to us through.  It all seems so overwhelming with no escape. Prayers would be appreciated to help guide us all, heal our hearts, and that the judge will see my son truly needs help, that just consequences will not solve this.  But that we need a  intervention to stop our son from further damaging himself and others.  And we can return to being the family we were meant to be.  We love all our children deeply and will support each one to the best of our ability.  Love Susanne and Dan