A new perspective

I'm trying to come up with new ideas for activities for the whole family. It seems like negative behavior rules the house. With it comes negative feelings and words by everyone as they try to deal with every approaching storm. So for Thanksgiving Dan's making pork ole? Never heard of it. Rick Mushroom caps. Dan a salad he is still choosing. Any ideas? leave one for him. Eddie Ray Peanut Butter Blossoms. Mom gets to oversee the boys. Then we'll all work together for place settings. They are responsible for coming up with a new game or family activity each week. I'm thinking I'd like to make a family quilt. I don't know. Rick is starting his skill building. Plus he will still be in therapy. I know it's difficult for him dealing with the hand life has dealt him. It's so easy to reach out with negative behavior for attention. Like he said he's been lying and stealing since he was a little boy just to survive. And he knows he doesn't need to yet he still does it. Some days I'm so torn between wanting to scream ( which I do, sad but true) to just holding him and never let him go. (Thank goodness happens too.) He wishes I had got him younger, but really with Reactive Attachment disorder I wouldv'e had to have him at one or younger. So wish us luck on our new adventure. Any ideas would be appreciated. Love to all.