A new perspective

I'm trying to come up with new ideas for activities for the whole family. It seems like negative behavior rules the house. With it comes negative feelings and words by everyone as they try to deal with every approaching storm. So for Thanksgiving Dan's making pork ole? Never heard of it. Rick Mushroom caps. Dan a salad he is still choosing. Any ideas? leave one for him. Eddie Ray Peanut Butter Blossoms. Mom gets to oversee the boys. Then we'll all work together for place settings. They are responsible for coming up with a new game or family activity each week. I'm thinking I'd like to make a family quilt. I don't know. Rick is starting his skill building. Plus he will still be in therapy. I know it's difficult for him dealing with the hand life has dealt him. It's so easy to reach out with negative behavior for attention. Like he said he's been lying and stealing since he was a little boy just to survive. And he knows he doesn't need to yet he still does it. Some days I'm so torn between wanting to scream ( which I do, sad but true) to just holding him and never let him go. (Thank goodness happens too.) He wishes I had got him younger, but really with Reactive Attachment disorder I wouldv'e had to have him at one or younger. So wish us luck on our new adventure. Any ideas would be appreciated. Love to all.

Life is Crazy

Rick has broke so much as he has tried to deal with things.We now need to fix a Living Room, Dinning Room, and 2 bedroom walls, 2 doors, and my front windows. I guess my biggest issue came from him sneaking in my room while I was asleep to steal from me. Yes I feel broke. But more I wonder how to reach my son. To realize he can trust and love again. In his anger he has yelled out he was adopted because no one loved him. Now it is that I will discard him like his last parents. I told him straight up I'm noit looking to kick him out, but I do refuse to let him hurt other in his anger. He was promised a letter I while back and all he got was a quick card. Like he said he wasn't even worth a letter. His hurt runs deep. The last 2 days have gone better. A big Thanks to Grandpa & Grandma for a night out. It gave Mom some breathing room to get a new perpective. And apparently the chat they had with the boys worked wonders. Yesterday was great. Very relaxing!
We are trying a new treatment option. This one will include family too, which is good because his behaviors has affected everyone. And I spend so much time feeling frustrated.
He is a wonderful child, he just acts out when he is hurting. Which is most the time. I guess I can Thank Heavenly Father that he is glad he is my son. Part of him knows he is loved, and part feeels he doesn't deserve it. He carries around so much responsibilities for other people's mistakes. He told me he was glad I always apologize when I feel I was wrong. So there is hope!! Yeah there is always hope.

Happy Halloween!!

Isn't Anna adorable? Her and Ricky shared the mask.

Dan and Eddie Ray aren't they spooktacular?

Pumpkin carving Eddie Ray style. I'm like Hello? You're on Momma's table! I love the humor the 3 boys add to my life. Dan and Eddie Ray made us breakfast in bed for Halloween. So today not to let the holiday go by without pumpkin pancakes, I made them. Everyone got theirs sat down to pray and Anna girl stole the 7 pancakes left. I guess she figured if she dressed up she was due too.

Up in Smoke

A couple weeks ago I found 45 cigarette butts plus matches in my bathroom window sill with numerous burn marks on the wood. Apparently when I said no smoking after I found my bathroom counter burned we decieded to go for the window sill. Then when that was found we went higher up on the window. Then I found Rick's window open and cigarette burns on that window sill. Then I found burn holes in Rick's matress. Then this morning the bathroom sink wouldn't drain, guess what I found cigarette butts shoved down the drain. When Rick was questioned it isn't him, he quit smoking. And the matress well that was a long time ago, he tried to light the matress on fire. Gee I feel so much better. I want to know why I don't smoke in my house but my 15 feels he has the right to and destroy my house at the same time. And people wonder why I get frustrated. HMM let me think. I told him I'm tired of it, I found him one night smoking on the basement stairs, he threw a lit cigarette in the basement and denied it. Helloo it's burning on the wooden steps. He wants to know why I would think he's trying to burn down my house? Let me think.... I don't know intall smoke alarms in his room in the bathroom? But would it go off from a cigarette? I've grounded and taken things away, to no avail. He came home with a lighter that sounds and looks like a blow torch. He found why can't he keep it. I'm duh? Do you need a lighter? And for what? Oh that's right to break my rules. I've had so many people say just give him a corner in the house to smoke. 1st of all he is under 18, can we say illegal? 2nd of all I don't somke in my house for a reason, so why should he? Can we tell I am frustrated. Any ideas?

Proud Momma

Sorry no picts I'm to tired to upload. But anyway. Rick won 1st place for his wolf drawing, 2nd place for his drawing of me holding him as a baby. Very cool. Now they return to my wall of love.
Lil Dan had his 1st game last Thursday. He won 28-16. Then he became a teenager on Monday.
Eddie Ray had his first football practice on Tuesday. He did very well.
Now tommorow is conquer and divide. Go to Dan's game at 3:30, either Dan or I will have to leave at 5:15 to get Eddie Ray to his practice at 5:30pm. I can till supper will be a late one.

A day at the Lagoon

Rick was fishin without a pole and caught 10 fish. In all the boys caught 20 some fish.

Isn't it just breath-taking.

Rick takes baby girl (Anna) for a swim. She loved it. She even watched a duck for a long time.

University Cruise 9-6-09

It was an awesome turnout. We figure between 500-600 cars. It just keeps growing.

I put this one in for Ivan, it's a killer GS. We ran into Ivan and Danny out there.

Chuck's Camaro that little Dan got to ride in, he absolutely loved it. He just couldn't get the grin off his face.

Chuck Jim Duane Susanne Bron and Mike "The Committee"

There's my boy in the 1969 Camaro. He likes Big Blocks. But it was Eddie Ray who wanted to keep Cruisin til 10:30pm the other 2 headed to Grandpa and Grandmas at 9pm. They were all exhausted and sleeping when I came to get them. Then they all got up early this morning to pick up garbage up and down University ave for almost 2 hours. Great helpers were they. Can't wait for next year.