Friday, October 2, 2009

Up in Smoke

A couple weeks ago I found 45 cigarette butts plus matches in my bathroom window sill with numerous burn marks on the wood. Apparently when I said no smoking after I found my bathroom counter burned we decieded to go for the window sill. Then when that was found we went higher up on the window. Then I found Rick's window open and cigarette burns on that window sill. Then I found burn holes in Rick's matress. Then this morning the bathroom sink wouldn't drain, guess what I found cigarette butts shoved down the drain. When Rick was questioned it isn't him, he quit smoking. And the matress well that was a long time ago, he tried to light the matress on fire. Gee I feel so much better. I want to know why I don't smoke in my house but my 15 feels he has the right to and destroy my house at the same time. And people wonder why I get frustrated. HMM let me think. I told him I'm tired of it, I found him one night smoking on the basement stairs, he threw a lit cigarette in the basement and denied it. Helloo it's burning on the wooden steps. He wants to know why I would think he's trying to burn down my house? Let me think.... I don't know intall smoke alarms in his room in the bathroom? But would it go off from a cigarette? I've grounded and taken things away, to no avail. He came home with a lighter that sounds and looks like a blow torch. He found why can't he keep it. I'm duh? Do you need a lighter? And for what? Oh that's right to break my rules. I've had so many people say just give him a corner in the house to smoke. 1st of all he is under 18, can we say illegal? 2nd of all I don't somke in my house for a reason, so why should he? Can we tell I am frustrated. Any ideas?

1 comment:

  1. DO NOT give him a corner!! I don't know who these people are, but lowering your standard will NOT fix a problem, just condone it. Der! Next, yes, I can definitely see you are frustrated, and who wouldn't be?! The only suggestion I can think of right now is to keep him SUPER busy. So busy, in fact, that he doesn't have ANY down time...ever. Unfortunately, neither will you, but your house won't burn down. lol. You may need to keep all flammable items under lock and key. *no kidding and no exceptions* Remember, his reasoning skills due to his learning issues are like unto a toddler at times :) Hang in there, rely on the Lord for direction, and continue to love amid frustration. I love you and have faith in you!!

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